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If you’re reading this you probably “suffer” from low self esteem. There are several ways to overcome low self esteem, but before we get to the tips let’s define what self esteem is. Wikipedia says:

In psychology, self-esteem or self-worth is a person’s self-image at an emotional level; circumventing reason and logic. The term differs from ego in that the ego is a more artificial aspect; one can remain highly egotistical, while underneath have very low self-esteem.

Well that’s clear. To build self esteem we have to figure out why you have low self esteem. That’s easy, I’m positive that you’re focussing on your negative aspects, instead of the postive ones!

See, since you were a kid you were told thousands of times “You can’t” or “Don’t”, making you feel incomplete. You get the feeling that you don’t know enough, that you’re not good enough, that you aren’t experienced enough etc.

To overcome this, and build self esteem, you have to focus on you’re strengths and achievements and acknowledge your weaknesses. Everyone has weaknesses, and it doesn’t matter! Accept them for what they are and focus on you’re strengths and achievements. For example; you can make people laugh. That’s great! Any idea how much joy you bring to your friends and family? Give yourself a pat on the back!

I’ll list some things you can do to build self esteem. They’re simple, everyday things but they work wonders.

• Keep your promises
  You know how it goes. “Tomorrow when I wake up, the first thing I’m gonna do is workout” and then you don’t. Keep your promises, especially to yourself. If you don’t workout tomorrow morning it will negatively affect your self esteem and you will feel less good about yourself all day. You can replace “workout” with anything else ofcourse.
• Help someone else
  Perform an act of kindness. Little things like giving the homeless guy a piece of fruit, helping a co-worker out with something or letting someone get in front of you in line. Everytime you do something like this it will make you feel good about yourself thus increasing your self esteem.
• Teach someone else how to do something
  If you teach people how to do something that you already can if will help you build self esteem. Learn a kid how to read or ride a bicycle or teach your friend how to make that nice dinner you made last week. Teaching someone to do something successfully, like cooking that dinner, is one of the greatest feelings in the world and will definitely help you build self esteem.
• Make a plan and stick to it
  When you make a plan for the day it’s probably a plan that is consistent with what you think would be the best use of your time. If you stick to your plan you are consistent with the best person you can possibly be, causing your self esteem to soar.

Just remember to accept your weaknesses and focus on your strengths. Building self esteem is not as hard as it sounds, you’re already full of self esteem, you only have to find it within yourself. By focussing on your strength and doing little things like I wrote above I’m sure you’ll find it very soon.

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